Problem with baby name?!?

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and have been keeping the name for our baby boy ultra secret. My husband and I picked that name 4 months ago as soon as we found out it's boy.





My friend is 18 weeks pregnant and last Monday she found out that she's also going to have a baby boy. She then emailed everybody that she's going to name the baby the same like our pick! She doesn't know we have named our baby with 'that'.





What should we do now? Change it, since nobody knew that the name was our pick first? I really love that name but people (or she) will think we steal her idea because we didn't tell anyone earlier. :( I'm really sad now.

Problem with baby name?!?
you need to tell your friend!!! you should have told everyone at least what the name started with so if someone else liked a name that started with it, they could have asked you first if it wasn't the same name. i'm sure people will believe you when you tell them that you already chose the name before your friend did.


but it shouldn't be that big of a deal if you both have the same named kids if you both decide to stay with the name.


we kept the name a secret too but we didn't have anyone else pregnant in the family at the time. we are definitely going to keep it a secret again but tell everyone the first letter just in case if someone else is pregnant at the time!
Reply:I don't think you should have to change your little man's name. It is what you have been calling him for a while now. I would talk to her and explain everything, see what she says. Also there can more than one person with a name. Names are not exclusive.


Good Luck! I know it is hard. We had the same situation with my sister. She named her daughter Alexis and we were going to name ours Alexandra and call her Alex, or Lexi, but my neice is called Lexi, so we just changed it. Our little girl is named after my mom and my mother in law. It is kinda sweet.
Reply:If it's the name that you really love, then I would stick with it and just tell your friend that, that is the name that you had picked out from the time you knew you were having a boy. If you don't want to do that then I would change the name.
Reply:That is what happens when you keep secrets. What is the name anyway? If you name him that your friend is DEFINITELY going to think you "stole" it from her and will not believe you chose it first... especially if when she told you, you didn't reply straight away telling her that you also had chosen that name.


I would go with a different name but I personally wouldn't have kept it secret anyway.
Reply:no just tell the other people that you guys picked it out first and that name has been your fave for like ever also you are more weeks pregnant than she is so that is like a total obvious
Reply:Name your child whatever you would like. If she gets mad about it, then she's not much of a friend. She has a long way to go, she may change her mind yet (and you might, too).
Reply:Stick with your name you are having your baby first. Tell you friend that you and your husband already picked that name and all. If she is a true friend she will understand.
Reply:Stick with the name you've chosen.





I'm assuming it isn't something so unusual that they'll be the only two boys born in 2007/08 with the name. And friends often have similar taste in names.





Drop her an email that says "Great minds think alike - we haven't mentioned it, but we'd picked Sam/Jaden/Caleb/Dashiell for our son, too! But shhh ... we're keeping it a secret."





She might not be thrilled, but the ink will be dry on your birth certificate long before her little boy makes his appearance. If she's so troubled by it, that's plenty of time for *her* to reconsider.
Reply:Keep the name that the two of you chose for your baby. You can't run your lives or choose your childrens names according to your friends lives that isn't fair to you. Besides, your friend has more time to choose the name for her boy than you two have now.


However if you really don't like that idea and don't think it is right.. Try to go for a variation of the name like if it is Tyler.. Think of Taylor, or Tyrone or something like that. Try to find a unique way to keep the name but change it slightly.





Good luck.
Reply:This is one situation where I think it's perfectly fine to use the same name as your friend.





I would, however, make one little exception to your hush hush name policy and discuss it with her, and only her. Nothing confrontational or even negative in the least -- after all, she didn't know it was the name you'd also chosen. She does, however, deserve to know ASAP, because even if she completely understands that you'd picked that exact name months ago, she might still appreciate the chance to consider some other options.





It's not a "you stold our name" thing so much as "I just wanted you to know that is the very name we'd already chosen for OUR son, and while I think it'd be great for you to use it as well, felt compelled to share our choice with you before he's born and it's officially announced."





She may be fine with that and still use it, or she may go with a second choice or simply keep looking, but either way it's nice to give her the option now, rather than having her find out in six weeks with everyone else -- after she's grown to think of HER son by that name even more, know what I mean? At least then the decision is hers.





Also, I'm assuming your friends are family are aware of the fact that the name has been set for months, and you're simply not sharing it just yet? If so, I don't think anyone will assume you simply copied your friend's name or anything like that. They'll realize it was just a funny coincidence. ;)





Good luck!
Reply:hell who cares what everyone thinks you picked that name first it must suck that that is happening to you thats happend to me too unfortunally i would have taken my own advice but i had a still birth and so i couldn't name my baby what i wanted
Reply:This is your child with your husband so you name him what the two of YOU want. Does your friend at least know you have a name picked out but are keeping it hush hush? I say go with the name you guys love cause this is your son and you are entitled to name him whatever you like.


Congrats!!!


Boys are AWESOME!!! I have 4 sons...
Reply:who cares what people (or her) will think.
Reply:That really stinks. I would pick something new. It's a sign that your son wasn't meant to have that name.
Reply:I think you should stick to the name you've picked. Let her know that the reason you didnt tell her the name you were choosing, was because you wanted it to be ultra secret but hey,you had it first.


Congrats!
Reply:why cant both babies have the same name?
Reply:i think you should go with the mane you chose because it's your baby and anyway you'll have your baby first and if you friend is a true friend then she will understand


congrats on the new baby boy i hope that the baby is healthy and that everything turns out great
Reply:Well that is hard. I understand about stealing someone's thunder. I had a hard time with names too. I didn't want my child to have the same name as anyone elses child in my family so it took a while to come up with one for each. But if you really like the name then just change the spelling or part of the name like the middle part. Or add an extra middle name. There are ways to get around it and it might be a good idea to go ahead and announce the name so that no body else steals your thunder. Because we all know it's first come first named.
Reply:lol, just tell her that's what ya'll were planning on and see if she's still okay with you naming the munchkin the same thing. Some friends are for life and if she's one of those few, then I'd run it by her.