Baby Name DRAMA!!! Please Help!!!?

Does my child have to have her fathers last name? He is trying to tell me that the baby HAS to have his last name after a paternity test is done. I disagree, and I want the baby to have mine! What can be done?

Baby Name DRAMA!!! Please Help!!!?
No. You write the birth certificate and you can use any surname you want. If you want to use your surname, use yours, or you could even use both names.


Either the father is misinformed or he is trying to deceive you.
Reply:No he does not have to have his name





I do know some one that kept her name, and when the boy was ten, his father family kept telling him he was not family because he did not have his name. this upset his so much, that the mother change his name to His first her last(as middle), his father last


The boy was very happy to have his father name, like most children





A lot gives the child both names by using the mother as the middle name





Or by first middle his-your last or first middle your-his last


My friend did not like those names, so she used hers as the middle, and the father was in the boys life for ten years already





No you do not
Reply:You are the person who actually gets to decide. You can even make one up. He is just trying to bully you. If the child will be primarily with you then it makes sense for him/her to have your last name. Or if you want to end the drama I have a solution.


Say his last name is Smith and yours is Jones. The baby boy will be named Jared Everett Smith Jones.


You name is last here so all you do is drop his name on every thing you sign for him. At school you can register as Smith Jones or just Jones but only use the very last name which will be yours. If he is involved in the child's life then Smith Jones can be used, by him anyway.


The child's last name will be the same as your. Period.


You don't need to discuss this with him or tell him you plan to use only Jones. He can be happy with what he has and you win with no battle. As I said, just don't tell him.


I assume you guys are not together or at least not married, right?


My daughter relented and let her baby have the ex's last name and my grand really hated having a different name. She used her mom's last name except at school. But her dad moved across the US when she was 6 months old and there was very little contact until she was 8 or so. She had actually asked to have her named changed legally just before her dad popped in unexpectedly. She deciuded then to keep her dad's name.


You need to do whats best for the baby not the babies daddy.


Good luck.
Reply:You have the right to decide which last name the baby has. Since you are not married, it is perfectly fine for the baby to have your last name. Personally, if the father is involved with the child then I would give the child his last name. But, if the father doesn't want a whole lot to do with the child then the child should get your last name. You might want to think about if you and the father are going to get married. If the answer is yes, then the child should get the father's last name. Again, you are the mother, it is YOUR choice what last name the child receives.
Reply:Whatever you put on the birth certificate will be his/her last name. If he waits till after the baby is born the only way he could change the name is if he had legal custody of the baby. If you want him to be financially responsible for the baby then you might want to use his last name or possibly hyphenate the baby's last name (i.e. use both of your last names).
Reply:No your child doesn't have to have his last name. That sounds kinda controling. But anyways, when you have the to make out the birth cet, just put your last name on there. Once its in ink, it can't be changed unless you go through the courts age. So there you go =] Don't let him push you around. he's pretty dumb to think it has to be his last name.


he's just jealous that your pregnant and the other girl he's banging isnt'
Reply:no you do not have to give the baby the father's last name.





my friend kay's mom gave all the boys in her family the dad's last name and all the girls her's.
Reply:i'd go w/ your last name.


bc it sounds like you'll be having


MORE than just baby name drama later.





your welcome,


signed:


always here to give clarity to a situation.
Reply:The baby does NOT have to have his last name. The child can have either yours or his, or a hyphenated version of both or your names..





hope this helps xxD
Reply:Nope! You fill out the birth certificate and you put the name you want! If its such a big deal then lhe should marry you and give you his name too!
Reply:No it does not. It's your choice. No questions ask??? It's your choice
Reply:No, that child does not have to have his name...