Baby name drama?

Last November my best friend gave birth and gave her baby girl my middle name. I was honored and I love that little baby more than can put into words. Anyways I was talking to my friend last night and she informed me that if I have a girl her name better be in my baby's name. Either first or middle. I didn't say anything, We have been best friends for over 10 years and I truely dont want to hurt her by not naming my baby after her. Not to be mean in any way; but it is not like I asked her to name her baby after me. I never knew about it until she named her. Is that wong not to reciprocate? Also, how do I handle this situation? Thanks soo much!!

Baby name drama?
That's a tough one... but if she really is a friend she wouldn't expect it. My best friend and I used to say long ago we would name our kids after each other for middle names. I have 3 and she has 2...none of them have any part of each others of our names...lol!





the name of your baby is up to you and your man...and that's all there is to it. But to ease tension use a family name from his side for a middle name... and tell her that is a tradition and that you have already chosen another middle name. Honor her as the godmother or give her the title "aunt" as a way to show her how much your child will love her.
Reply:Although it might hurt your friend's feelings not to reciprocate, she has to understand that you and your hubby have your own ideas on names and they don't include her name. Like you said, you knew nothing of her baby's name until she came, keep your baby's name on the down low until he/she gets here. She will be angry, but a true friend will understand.





Good Luck!
Reply:you shouldnt feel bad if you dont want to name your baby after her. After all it will be your baby and nobody can tell you what to name your own child. Like you said you never asked her to name the baby after you so it was up to her and i dont think its wrong not to recipricate. After all it wont be her baby it would be yours. she has no right to tell you what to name your kid when you have them so tell her straight up you dont want to name your baby after that. surely after a while she will understand even if she is a bit upset at first. she will get over it.
Reply:Wow! that is a tough situation. You are right, you didn't know, or ask her to use your name. You should probably use Emily. It is pretty cute. You could use it as a middle name, Its not like you would actually call her Emily, you can pick out a beautiful first name. You wouldnt want to end a friendship over this.





Good Luck!
Reply:Let her know that your choice of naming your baby is not her choice. Tell her she should not put your friendship on the line like that. I love you and respect you. So, please respect my decision of naming my child ----------- --------------. Now maybe to appease her you can make her name a nickname. Really I would not go that route at all.If she can not handle it, then that is on her.
Reply:You can name your child whatever you want to. Like you said, you didn't ask to have your name be in the child's name. As long as you were grateful she did so, why should you be obliged to do the same? She was completely of her own free will to name her child after you. You didn't put a gun to her head and force her. You owe her nothing. Tell her so.
Reply:Honestly, you should show her some love, you dont have to because she used your name but continue your long lasting friendship with using at least her name somewhere in your childs name. If its a boy then use a similar name ex. Eric/Erica. And maybe your children will have a long-lasting friendship like you two have.
Reply:you don't have to use her name if you don't want to. Tho it was very lovely of her. It would be strange to pick a name because someone Told you too.
Reply:you dont have to. maybe she was joking. you really have to talk to your best friend about this. It also depends on ur best friends name is it pretty? do you like it?
Reply:You are not obliged to do this.


But if you wanted to, you could give your baby 2 middle names?


If you really wanted to ofc xx
Reply:What is your friends name?
Reply:What names do you like??


Maybe you could use the same initials as hers? (E___ J___)
Reply:I think the fact she actually 'told' you to name it after her is worse than you just feeling obliged because she did it for you. I've had the same problem with people 'telling' me their going to be god parents to my little boy when he's born. It isn't fair to put that pressure on you and as you say you didn't ask for her to do it. So if you don't want to upset her just explain that you really appreciate what she did but her name either doesn't go with the first name you've picked or that it just doesn't suit the baby. If she is offended i personally would think she's been a little bit selfish
Reply:i agree with the first person. it would be a little strange to pick a name becasue someone Told You To. i mean, think about, who's going to have to live with the name for the rest of her life...u are (apart from ur baby of course). but anyway, imagine telling ur daughter (is it a daughter?) that u chose that name, not becasue u liked it, but becasue ur friend Told You To.





i know its a hard decision,considering shes ur friend and all. and dont ask me how ur going to tell her ur not nameing ur baby after her, but yeah, thats just my opinion...


id want my baby to have a name that i absolutely adored.


afterall, shes ur baby, isnt she?
Reply:Are you pregnant? If not, I wouldn't worry about it right now. I know you have been friends for 10 years, but you may not even be close with this person when you do have a child. Besides, you may not even have a baby girl. Also, if you are friends with her when you have a child and if she brings up you naming your child after her, assuming you don't want to use your friend's name, I would explain to her that there are a lot of considerations when naming a child, such a family tradition, personal taste, the father's input (assuming he will be a part of the child's life), etc. You shouldn't feel pressure from anyone to name your child something. Please don't feel like you have to reciprocate. A name is a big deal and something a child will have for the rest of its life and you don't want to choose a name because you thought you had to or else someone's feelings would get hurt. Good luck.

camelia