Baby name disagreement... ?

My wife and I were recently married and are expecting a child in July. Three years ago, her brother, Sergio, was killed by an IED in Iraq, and at his funeral, she promised she would name her first son after him. With no disrespect to her brother, I really don't like that name at all. But can I really say anything? Shouldn't a baby's name be something we both like?

Baby name disagreement... ?
:::I would let your wife keep her promise:::
Reply:Use it as the middle name.
Reply:I understand where you are coming from, but it sounds really selfish of you, in a way. I would understand if his name was "Ink Cartridge" or something like that. But Sergio just sounds like a Slavic/Spanish boys name. You might not be too fond of it, but I believe this is something you must let her do.
Reply:sergio middle name is what you can call him by
Reply:maybe u should just make it the middle name and come to an agreement about the first name
Reply:Well, if she did promise than I think you should atleast keep 'Sergio' somewhere in the name. Probably as a middle name. Here's some suggestions..





Michael Sergio


Andrew Sergio


Charles Sergio


Lucas Sergio


Emmett Sergio


Nicholas Sergio





Good Luck %26amp; Congrats!
Reply:Why not use Sergio as the middle name? I totally understand as I don't like the name either.
Reply:hmmm..well i think both parents should have a say in their baby's name. like either both agree on a name, or one can pick the first name and one can pick the middle name or...if you plan on having more than one child, one parent picks the name for the first kid, then the other can name the next kid, something like that. so you could ask her if sergio could be his middle name and come up with something you both like for the first name. my husband has already picked out a first name for a boy and i kinda like it and i get to pick the middle name, and if it's a girl or we have another boy later, i'll get to pick the first name and he'll pick the middle names, as long as on of us doesn't absolutely hate the name. good luck!
Reply:Well tell her that its ok for her no name it after her brother, but it will be hard to teach the son about his name, i will make your wife tear up and that if i were you i would go with the middle name being your wifes brothers name. Good luck!
Reply:keep your wife's promise.
Reply:Yes, it should be something you both agree on. Honour him by using Sergio as the middle name.
Reply:Well ... yes, the name should be something you agree on. And she'd be forgiven, perhaps, for not honoring a promise made in the depths of grief. (Seriously, who even remembers?)





But it might be nice to compromise and include Sergio - or even Serge - in your son's given name. After all, your wife and her family lost a loved one way too soon. Remembering him with Serge or Sergio in your son's name is probably the right thing to do.





But it could be David Sergio or Jackson Serge or ... well, anything but Sergio as a given name.





Bring it up gently, and she may surprise you. After all, I think including Sergio in the middle spot qualifies as naming your son after her brother.
Reply:I think that using the names of relatives is a great way to pass a little of history along. That doesn't mean you have to call your child Sergio, it can be a middle name, or you can use a nick name to call your child. The name should be something you can both agree upon. Even if you don't like the name, do you like the reasons for her wanting to name the child that?
Reply:sure it should! if she loves you enough, you can talk about anything with her. maybe if you can't come to a decision, ask if you could choose the middle name then.
Reply:Maybe you can pick the middle name and just call him by his middle name?
Reply:You should definitely have a say in your child's name. Would you be willing to use Sergio as a middle name or use Sergio's middle name for your son?
Reply:No offense but when you carry the baby for 9 months and then squeeze it out you can pick the name. Guys provide sperm and think they can control then name of the child. Grow up, it's an honor to name a child after the deceased and she should want to name HER son after her brother.





If you don't want to let her do this then YOU don't LOVE your wife. Trust me, no man will ever tell me what to name my child unless he's the one carrying it.
Reply:First of all, When your son is old enough to understand who Sergio was, I think your son will embrace the name. I think that it is fine for a first or middle name which ever you and your wife discuss and agree upon. Please bring up the subject gently to your wife. By the way, I agree you should both like the name you call your child.
Reply:maybe make it his middle name. Or pick another name that starts with S in his honor.
Reply:yes say something like can it be his middle name or something bcuz u only have ur 1st child once.
Reply:Ask her to make it a middle name.


I don't like the name at all.
Reply:Why didn't you discuss this three years ago? You could have told her then that you didn't care for the name. I understand where you are coming from and I would put it as a middle name, but now that it hasn't been discussed prior, your between a rock and a hard place.
Reply:To me, marriage is all about compromise. Tell your wife you do not care for the name Sergio but would consider using it for his middle name, and then hopefully you could both agree on his first name. This child belongs to both of you, so I feel that a compromise is in order. My husband and I settled a dispute by doing this, and our son loves his name.
Reply:You love your wife, right? This is important to her so I would go along with it. You say "can I really say anything" - well yes of course you can - ask her if her mind is really set on the name Sergio - if she says yes then give in gracefully. Sometimes being a man mean putting your woman's feelings ahead of your own.
Reply:I can completely understand where both of you are coming from. It's not a great name so perhaps you can talk about it and see if she's set on it for a first name.





Do you really want that child to have the exact same name as her brother? It's going to be a constant reminder that her brother is gone but then again it may comfort her.





Perhaps you could incorporate his name somehow to make a new first but not sure what. As a middle name it's great...I think that's what the middle name thing is for personally.





In the end don't cause a big argument over it because sure, it is a big deal your child's name but think of your wife, she lost a brother and wants to honour him. What's more important?





Good luck.
Reply:When she promised to name him after her brother, could it be a middle name? That way her brother will still live on but the child would still have his own unique name that you both like. Have you asked her? Are you for sure it is a boy yet?
Reply:Go with a name you both agree on and use Sergio in the middle name spot
Reply:Maybe you could call him by his middle name or just have Sergio as the middle name.
Reply:yes--discuss it and maybe this could be a middle name.