Baby name- I really hate the name my husband wants.?

I am pregnant with my second child and my husband wants to name it after his father. The baby's name will be Gaven Gerald, I love the name Gaven but I am not crazy about Gerald. I think Gerald is ok but not with Gaven. I understand it is his father but come on the names don't even sound ok at all together, apart they are fine names but together I just don't like it. His father doesn't even talk about the baby and said being a grandfather will make him old and he has never even bought anything for our baby either. I just think if your going to name a baby after someone they should at least care a little. Also this is my husbands first child and the first grandchild, but no one in his family acts like they care.

Baby name- I really hate the name my husband wants.?
compromise... Tell him to pick which of the two names he likes the best and go with that. Then pick another one that sounds good w/ the chosen one. There is really no need to use both of the names, unless he is a jr or a third, but from what you said it doesn't sound like that is the case. Even if you just use one of the names, you will still be nameing the child after it's grandfather.
Reply:what about giving the baby your husbands father's middle name instead? still be named after him as your husband wishes, but may go with gaven a little better. :)
Reply:Perhaps he'd be willing to compromise with using Gaven and HIS middle or first name - name the child after your husband and his father instead of just the grandfather.





Since your husband wasn't named after his father (or you'd have said "after my husband") would that work? It should serve to appease his desire to carry on with a family name.
Reply:His father sounds kind of distant, maybe it's his way of trying to feel closer to him. A lot of people name their kids after dead people or people who are famous but they've never met; it has more to do with trying to satisfy some need the person doing the naming has, rather than trying to please the person whose name is being used.


I'm not crazy about the name Gerald either, but how often does the middle name really come up? The initial comes up much more often and is used in signatures. Gaven G. [last name] does sound pretty cool if you just focus on the initial.


What is Grandpa Gerald's middle name, or Gerald's father's name (the great-grandpa)? Maybe your husband would be willing to consider using that instead.


I'm kind of old fashioned, I tend to give the father final say on first son's names. It's my family's tradition. However, from that point on he has to let you have final say on the other kids' names.
Reply:Well you are struggling with not being able to name your child.





Here is a suggestion:





Gaven Texas Juniper Gerald Flint Ocean
Reply:There's honoring your parent, and then there's giving over the entire *name* to the parent. I'd suggest that you keep one name - either first or middle - but not both.





Assuming the child will have the same surname as dad and grandpa, it's to his advantage to have a different middle initial anyhow. Not that they're terribly likely to be confused, in this digital age, but it's nice to say "Oh, no I'm James R. Douglas. My grandfather was James Q. Douglas." Or whatever.





Perhaps you could argue for a name from your side as a middle name - your maiden name, your dad's name, etc.





And I humbly agree with you - Gaven Gerald is not a terribly pleasing sequence. Why continue it?
Reply:Express your feelings to your husband, maybe there is someone else you could name your child after. Like his grandmother, if her name is rose you could name him Gaving Richard or something. Or you could go with the Jewish tradition of giving the child the same initials of a realitive. I like: Gavin James, Gaving Cole, and Gavin Dylan.





Best of Luck!
Reply:How about names similar to Gerald: Gerard or Jared instead?
Reply:Is Gaven Gerald is father name


If so, how about Gaven your father first or middle name


This way, the son is named after both grandfathers, and not one.


I would suggest the child being named after both grandfathers





I knew I was going to have Elizabeth in my girl name. It was my mom's middle name. My sister already used her first.


We talked about using his mom's name, but we did not like then, neither does she, She we used Elizabeth as a first name





I would say, you think it's a good idea to name your first son after both fathers


He can have the first name, you get the second
Reply:Psychology Today published a study that surveyed over 500 Human Resource managers and over 150 college admissions counselors at competitive admission universities. The results showed that a person’s first name was a large factor in determining whether or not a person made it past the initial screening process for hiring or admission. People with odd or unusual or exotic names were more likely to be rejected while people with certain names – which Psychology Today termed “power names” – were more likely to pass the initial screening. Here are the top ten “power names” as rated by Psychology Today.





Girls





1. Catherine


2. Jennifer


3. Aimee


4. Elizabeth


5. Mary


6. Michelle


7. Sarah


8. Amelia


9. Ann


10. Lisa





Boys





1. William


2. Charles


3. Nathan


4. Robert


5. Edward


6. Mark


7. Paul


8. Matthew


9. Thomas


10. Henry
Reply:I had the same problem with a name my husband wanted but I hated, our compromise was to use a the name but in a different language ie.. Lorenzo = Laurence! Good Luck and Congratulations!
Reply:Have you tried telling ur husband how u feel and tell him what other opptions there are.


If they don't care u should bring that point to him.