Why do people name their baby one name and already have plans for nicknames

i have been reading the baby name section and so many people want to name their baby one thing such as Amilia but already making plans to call the child mia or naming them casey but want to call the baby riley. if this is the case then name the baby Riley. There isn't anything wrong with nicknames, many times they are given by friends, but I am not understanding parents who say I am going to name her/him this but call them that. This really confuses me. I am thinking about naming my baby Christian and I plan to call her Christian not christy or chris. Give me your opinions

Why do people name their baby one name and already have plans for nicknames
I completely agree (and I get this view from my mom). She named us our names and never called us by any nickname. She would always say I named you ______ not (insert nickname), and that's what I plan on calling you!





Nicknames are great for friends, espeically if you have multiple friends with the same name (i.e. Katie). But I think it is wrong for parents to name their kid one way and never plan on using that name. What is the birth name good for then?
Reply:I think nicknames are cute...only when their short for a name though. I don't understand why people will name their kid one thing and call it something completely different, it just doesn't make sense. But when a child has a longer name like Isabella, Gracelyn, Jacob or Daniel, there is nothing wrong on planning to call the child Bella, Gracie, Jake or Dan, because their the short form of the name. And the reason parents don't name their children the short form is because it's not proffesional and when their child is older they'll have an adult name instead of a just childish nickname! Hope this helps! =)
Reply:I agree with you if they really like the nickname than name them that but I like names that can be shortened but it should be the choice of the child. Suzanne to Suzie or Anne Or David to Dave but if you like Suzie then call her that or Dave. I have a name like that but don't make your own up for me I hate that. My friend calls me Christina Lynn and the 1st name is close to that but it isn't (I hate that name as it is not mine) and the middle name isn't mine either.



Reply:Also, I think its best to name the baby and then let the nickname come naturally. You dont 'plan' a nickname, thats stuipd. Nicknames derive because of who the person is. My daughters name is Camille, and I call her Cami, Cams, Mam, Mammy...I dont know where those came from, I didnt plan it out to call her those, they just come naturally when you talk to the child. People who choose nicknames before the child is here are overcompensating for something....





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Reply:I like longer names that can have nicknames. My oldest is named Paige, which doesn't really have any shrotened version. My second is named Mackenzie, we call her by her name mostly but sometimes we will call her Kenzie or Kenz. My son is due in August and we are planning to name him Nicholas or Thomas. When he is young we plan to call him by his full name, but as he gets older we will shorten it. I have a niece name Amanda, we call her Mandy because that is a name we all love. Mandy doesn't fit an adult but a child is fits.
Reply:I never really got it myself.





I could understand if, you know, peanut is a family nickname or something. And you want to carry on the tradition but don't want to legally call your child peanut Some nicknames really only work for family and friends. You may want to call you kid Lee-Lee. But something more professional and less childish would probably come in handy should they decide to run for mayor or something.





But I always figured nicknames were something that sort of evolved. Something kids chose themselves - god knows I made myself enough of them in elementary school.
Reply:My parents named me Abigail and planned to call me Abby. They wanted me to have options. If they named my Abby and I didn't like it when I got a job because it seemed to childish then I could go to Abigail or Gail. (I won't because I love Abby) They just want to give the child options on what they can call themselves. If they name their child Nora then she gets older and doesn't like it then she can't go back to Eleanor. Or Katie then she can't go to Katherine or Kathy.





Hope I helped you understand.
Reply:I totally agree!!! I don't hate nicknames....if they just happen.


I have four boys and after I had such a hard time convincing people that I wanted my first child to be called by his whole first name, I named the other four with very little chance of a nickname. My oldest now goes by a nickname and I don't mind...I just wanted it to be HIS decision when he was old enough to decide, not total strangers that decided to shorten his name.





Mitchell


Elliot


Grant


Tucker





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Reply:LOL I know you are referring to me! My reason is that I don't think the name Mia flows well with my middle name I am choosing so I wanted the overall name to flow and be pretty while still being able to call my child Mia/Miah/Meah... which is a name I am falling in love with.
Reply:When naming a baby, you have to think about nicknames. You wouldn't want to give your child a super long name nobody can pronounce. Also, you have to think of any nicknames that could be generated that may embarass the child once they go to school.
Reply:I completely agree. I have heard of people who give their kids crazy names so that they can call them a nickname... like Rosalina for Rose, or Amberly for Amber, Willhelmia for Bill...
Reply:In our case, it is because we're using family names - well worn, oft-used family names that will be shared by other (living) family members. The nickname becomes a "preemptive strike" if you will - a means to make sure that our little girl has a name of our choosing, rather than whatever seems to stick. It also allows our younger siblings to still consider using these names for *their* children, with, of course, different nicknames.





That said, I'm a big fan of nicknames in general. Not all parents are, and if you're not, then it makes more sense to choose a name like Christian or Sarah than to name your daughter Rebecca and wince every time someone calls her Becky. As you say, Christian might come home called Christy or Cici or Scooter, but that can be her choice. And that's fine.





But I like the idea of a child having a formal name to grow into, so if we ever had, say, a Rosemary (another family name), we'd probably call her Romy, but let her save the full version for her, say, Harvard diploma. ;)





What crazes me is when parents name their child just Billy instead of William, or Cassie instead of Cassandra. To my mind, either you choose a nickname-proof name, or you give your child the option of using the diminutive or the formal version.





It's all a matter of perspective. I know plenty of parents who opted for names like Esme, Piper and Rachel in part because they'd never be shortened - and more than a few who had their child knowing that they'd call him or her by a pet name.





If you grew up in a family where it was common to have six Anthonys and four Claras and five Roses, all living in the same neighborhood, you'd be quite used to nicknames - and would instantly understand why you both want to name your son James, but know that he'll need to be called Jamie to distinguish him from Grandpa Jim, Uncle Jay and Cousin J.R.





IMHO, a formal name is for the world, and a nickname is an intimate gesture bestowed by those who love you - no need to exclude parents from those who can choose them.
Reply:I agree with you for the most part, the only exception I can see is if your having a boy and naming him after his father. For example my brother's first name is Timothy because that is our fathers first name, now my parents didn't want a Jr. so they intended on calling him by his middle name. He has always gone by his middle name which is Allen, and he says he is so glad because he would have hated going by Timmy or Jr. And I don't blame him.





But yes, I have known lots of women that name their babies one thing but never intend on using that chosen name. I know someone due in Sept. naming her son Andrew but he is to go by Drew, so why not just name him Drew?





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