Baby name question what would you do?

Well I am not ready to have a baby yet; however this issue arose the other day. My husband's name is Ralph Henry IV; but he goes by his initials RH. Well we were at a family reunion the other day %26amp; some family members from out of town were asking us when we were going to have kids since we have been married for 3 years already. Then they asked if we had a son would we continue the name tradition. I said "NO" but my husbands grandfather Ralph Henry II was standing right next to me and said "Yes you are"; saying that my husbands great-grandfather picked out his name %26amp; since he will be the great-grandfather of our child his is continuing the name tradition.





I don't want to me be mean but my husband hates his name, and I don't really like it for our children it is so old-fashioned. Well that night I had a dream that I was in the hospital gave birth to a son %26amp; then did not get to see the baby again until they brought me the baby %26amp; the birth certificate %26amp; it had Ralph Henry V on the birth certificate. It was more like a nightmare!!





If we do ever have a son I want to name the baby after my late brother who died when I was 15. Is that so wrong of me to break the tradition to honor my brother? I know I will cause an uproar as I plan on using my maiden name and hypenate my new last name just because I was so close to my brother %26amp; I want to honor him %26amp; show him how much I love him. My husband loves the idea so what about the family? What would you do??

Baby name question what would you do?
As long as you and your husband agree...and his family knows that, that it all that matters.





It is you baby, not anyone else's. Always remember that when nosy people are trying to give you "advice" or sway your judgement.
Reply:Thats funny that someone actually used my name for your baby suggestion!





I agree with them....my name is awesome......RICO HARMON!!!





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Reply:If both you and your husband like the idea of honouring your brother I think that's great!! You said your husband doesn't like RH V either so I would go with what you guys want - Sorry to RH II but this one isn't his baby, you guys should be able to choose the name! I really like the idea of honouring your brother as well, what a great idea :)
Reply:I LOVE the idea. You have to tell the family (or better yet get your hubby to -- it's HIS family) honestly and about your brother. Maybe if you have another baby you could give it the initals RH (Riley Hannah) Be open to compromising. Good luck!
Reply:Well i understand what you want to do but lose the hyphenated maiden name.


That looks so cheesy!


Just give the baby his fathers last name!


Maybe you can use part of your brothers name and your husbands.


I think Grandpa is just going to have to understand! Good luck!
Reply:Go with YOUR feelings! Have you explained to the family your other ideas for a name when you're ready? It's hard for people to understand why you would break tradition, but they'll get over it! You two will be the parents, it's your decision! Good Luck!
Reply:If you and your husband loves the idea then go for it


the child's name is really up to the two of you and no one else


If they get upset once they see the baby the name will no longer be such a big deal any longer






Reply:Nobody's opinion matters but yours and your hubby's.





Ralph II has no right to be so blunt and arrogant.





I'm sorry to hear about your brother. Best of luck to both of you, may your marriage stay as happy as it sounds :)
Reply:I would name it whatever i wanted because it was my baby but i wouldn't hyphenate my maiden and new last name together beacause i think it is time to change.





Whatever floats your boat
Reply:The name is NOT for your husbands grandfather to decide! Its both you and your husbands decision! If you don't like the name...screw tradition!
Reply:I would name MY baby what I wanted to! It's not your granfather-in-law's business what you and your husband name YOUR child! Tell him to back off, and name your child WHATEVER YOU WANT!





Good luck!
Reply:It's Your baby and it's your Husbands baby.


Call it whatever you want to call it.


And hey, what if it's a girl?
Reply:Its yours and babys Daddys choice what the childs name is. xx
Reply:This is a great question for Dear Abbey!! But here is what I think she would say: You need to do what you and your husband want to do.It is totally out of line for his grandpa to declare that will be the name!! It doesn't mean you are disrespecting his family, especially because he likes the idea too! If they don't like it or choose to treat you differently over something that trivial, then that is pretty sad. If you are really worried about it, the two of you should try talking about it to the rest of his family and see what they say. Overall, just make sure you and your husband stay on the same page, so the family isn't mad at just you! But I think it's awesome you're naming it after your brother.
Reply:If you and your husband are in agreement, that's all that matters.


At some point Ralph Henry will come to an end. Since you're not royalty there doesn't need to be a Ralph Henry XIIII.


If carrying on the family name is not important to your husband , then it's time to let it go.


I have a very good friend who was Clyde Herbert V. He hated it. When his son was born he named him Christopher Henry. He carried on the initials , but not the name. Even the Great-Grandfather was satisfied.
Reply:Aw, I think that's great that you want to name your baby after your brother. If the family wouldn't agree, that's not your problem to deal with. I would name my baby how I want to. I mean, they don't own your baby. It might take them a while to forgive you but it's worth it. Anyways I'm sorry about your brother. But just name your baby what you want to name it. Nobody can stop you. It's YOUR baby.
Reply:You and your husband are starting a new life %26gt;%26gt;together%26lt;%26lt;.


Your life = your choices.





Many Jews name children for relatives by using the initials. To name a child for Arnold Martin, the child might be Anna Miriam. That way you can honor the older generation without using a name you hate. In your case, you could name a boy Rico Harmon or something.





I understand your desire to hyphenate your name. Please be aware that Federal computers aren't really up to that. Many hyphenates lose information in the system because one operator enters the Maria Hernandez-Garcia under "H" and another operator enters it under "G".


Just something to think about.
Reply:I agree that you should honor your brother. the family will probably start an uproar but you need to name your son what gives him meaning. You don't want to name him Ralph and then later in life he asks you why you named him that and you say to carry on the tradition NO! you want to say to honor you dead uncle. to make them happy i suggest using henry as a middle name.