Baby name last name question....?

I have a boyfriend but we are not married. I don't really want to give the baby his last name but he says that it's disrespectful if I don't.








What do you guys think about this?

Baby name last name question....?
Give the baby your last name..
Reply:Historically, this is what I have seen.





Guys who aren't serious enough to commit to marrying the mom, won't stick around until the child is grown.





Moms who's child is named for the absent father or his relatives


finds her negative emotions aimed at the child, rather than toward the absent father.





Thinking longterm and for the emotional health of both mother and child, If and when the parents are married - the child would take the name of the father.


If the father has not married the mother by the time of the birth,


I believe wisdom shows it is better for the baby to have the mother's last name.
Reply:You could always give the baby both your last names, like hyphen them. Like Johnson-Smith, for example. Your last name should be first, then his.





If you don't think your relationship will last that long, it's probably better to give the baby your last name.





But, if you are planning on getting married in the future, then it would be better to give the baby his last name.Then you wont have to go through the trouble of changing the baby's last name to his when you do get married.
Reply:It isn't disrespectful at all. In fact, it is disrespectful of him to act like he has more claim over the last name than you do simply because he is the guy. Give the baby your last name.





20 years ago people told women it was disrespectful not to take a man's name when they got married. Sometimes people are so old-fashioned and ridiculous.
Reply:Perhaps he should marry the mother of his baby before offering his unimportant opinion. You should definitely not give your baby any surname other than yours especially on it's passport. It can make travel in some areas of the world tricky, you may be required to show papers to prove the child is yours. Tell your BF it's more disrespectful to get someone pregnant but not marry them!!
Reply:Do you live together? Are you planning on getting married? If not, I'd give the baby your last name, because it could be hard having a different last name than your child if this guy is out of the picture. If you think he'll stick around, then give the baby daddy's name.
Reply:I'm not married and my baby has my last name and to this day I couldn't have made a better decesion give the baby your last name then if you do get married then you can change it to his if you wish go with what you want to do. Dont listen to the person above her husband is probably a control freak. U do what you want I did the same and I love that i made that decision even if they didnt' want me too
Reply:i do believe it is disrespectful if you dont' give the baby the dad's last name. he helped make it and he should get some acknowledgement in the situation. you are naming him on the birth certificate aren't you.
Reply:I don't think its disrespectful. Maybe you could use his first name as your child's first or middle name if its a boy, with your last name. Or if it's a girl, you could use his surname as the middle name.
Reply:It isn't disrespectful. It's your choice.
Reply:Me and my fiance hyphened our last names, McCorgan-Pitt. Just an idea. Also a reasonable solution.
Reply:Try a compromise. Give the baby his last name for a middle name.
Reply:well u must be serious with this guy so u guys should both decided and hopefully you'll work out something
Reply:I would hyphenate both of your last names. Preferably yours-his.
Reply:Thats wierd either get married or don't take his name
Reply:i wouldnt if you dont want then give the baby your name
Reply:i would give the babyyy your last name..

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